WORDS BY SIMON SMITH
No man has watched the movie Fight Club without thinking what it would be like to be Brad Pitt's character, Tyler Durden. He is the not-giving-a-fuck ideal. Unfortunately, most of us watch the movie relating more to Ed Norton's character than to Pitt's. We constantly worry about what our purchases say about us.
Durden simply does not care what those around him think and here's how he shows it:
UNFAZED BY AUTHORITY
When confronted by someone in a position of authority most of us shrink. Our heart starts racing and we become tongue-tied. Not Tyler Durden. When the owner of a bar discovers his place is being used an illegal fight club venue he instructs, "I want everybody out of here right now." Durden ignores the threat and responds with, "you should join our fight club." This doesn't mean you should punch your boss in the face when he asks you to do something but don't be a slave either.
HAVE A CLEAR LIFE PHILOSOPHY
Tyler is such an engaging character in Fight Club because rather than telling strangers they need to do what he does, he just lives his own life. When people take an interest and want to know more he's able to give them his philosophy in a clear way. "You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive." The point to take away from this is to live first then justify later...but only if asked.
FIND SOMETHING WHICH MATTERS TO YOU
One of Tyler's biggest appeals is the fact he knows exactly what matters to him and what doesn't. For Tyler, it's all about "hitting rock bottom." Nothing else can distract him from achieving his goals. In addition to his infamous speeches, Tyler backs up his words with his actions. He chooses to live in a shithole for a house and steal to survive. His own vision is so clear to him nothing else matters.
It's important to remember not to take each of these points with a pinch of salt. Those who truly don't give a fuck and do what they want tend to be arseholes.